What's it like when you are caressed in that special way? Is it as if every nerve is set afire, and that warmth just seems to slide inside you, slowly and deliciously, with every touch?
Well, my brothers, I have a secret for you: foreplay works!
Foreplay isn't just undressing before the act. Studies (and countless frustrated men!) have shown that women become aroused much more slowly than men and foreplay is the important ingredient in speeding up the intimacy process.
But what works during foreplay?
Touch.
Stroke her with your fingertips, gently grazing with your fingernails. Start by stroking her back, arms, shoulders, the insides of her elbows, then trailing down lightly over her butt, legs and the insides of her knees. Avoid the obvious places like her breasts and pubic area for right now because the sensations that you are allowing her to feel make those areas much more sensitive to your touch later.
When you are stroking, use a Tantric pattern. Ancient practitioners of Tantra believed that building energy in certain points of the body intensified feelings in that area. Therefore, stroke downward when you are above her pelvis, and stroke upward when you are below. Imagine how wonderful she's feeling right now, men, as you build that energy in her most intimate female place.
She should be vibrating with desire after about twenty minutes of this, so you can gently, slowly, graze the palm of your hand over her nipples. The softer the touch, the more response you'll get. In this hypersensitive state you've allowed her to come into, less is definitely more.
Be patient! Isn't it worth having a lady who's begging YOU to come inside her, rather than feeling frustrated when you just can't seem to pry those thighs apart?
Oh, and sisters--before you shove this article under your man's nose, giving him oh-so-subtle hints on how he can improve, know that this works on your man, as well as you!
Use a touch that doesn't tickle, which may be slightly harder or heavier than you're used to receiving. But remember, isn't love all about giving that special person what they need in order to feel special in your life?
So, if you desire to have her throbbing in places in a way she's probably never felt before, or if you are craving to have your man transform into a raging stallion with staying power, then won't you start stroking--each other?
