When Trust Is The Issue

 I learned that the past is the demon that can affect the future. I've found that not only I, but also so many women today lose men that they truly love. Why? Sometimes it's insecurity, or the most profound entity that keeps a relationship real and that's trust. Sometimes we let the men of yesterday dictate our tomorrow. We let sorry men that never worked out for us to screw up what is working for us in the present. Sometimes you hurt so bad you forget what love looks like, or what it is, or what it feels like.... it's all jaded.

Ladies, we sometimes forget that all men DO NOT love the same. So to expect the same thing in a different relationship isn't fair. To stereotype every man that you may encounter leaves you in an empty circle of loneliness. My man and I just broke up. Why? Because I couldn't trust him. Why? Because my ex-boyfriend cheated on me, so I expected my new boyfriend would. He broke things off with because of my accusation. It hurt so bad, he and i haven't spoken since. I lost a man who was the direct reflection of me because I let my past affect my future. I didn't trust that he could love me like i wanted. I didn't trust that this relationship was new and that it could be better than the first. Instead i walked into the relationship with a monotone heart, programmed and prone to hurt. Asking endless insinuating questions or over exaggerating situations was regular, because i was making sure i didn't get hurt. But so much distrust and exaggeration made me lose a love that i wish that i had. Ladies let's not forget that every love is different. No matter how many men we meet, we need to treat them as what they are, brand new men. If hurt is the result of the relationship learn to know what it is you want and what it is you want to become and what your heart will become. Treat a new man, exactly that... new. Forget about what the other man did.

Forget how bad he was in bed. Forget his inconsideration for your feelings. Forget his lack of sensitivity. Forget his macho steelo. Forget the disrespectful words that flowed with ease out of his mouth towards you. Forget the brazen touches. Forget the late night phone calls from every woman except for you. Forget all the lies...  Forget what it was like to hurt, because if the man you have now is doing everything right, then accept it, and don't look back to the past.