The Morning After

I have had many discussions on the topic of relationships. Their pros and cons, victories and defeats, elations and sorrow. Having spoken to countless members of both sexes in the hopes of decrypting intentions and sentiments, I believe the pivotal junction that opens a relationship to its true nature occurs after sexual relations.

I have found in my travels that relationships are broken down into two parts. I call these parts "short-term relationship goals" and "long-term relationship goals." It is the short- term relationship goals that have lead me to my convictions; without the short-term, there can be no long-term.

Short-term relationship goals are:

Mental attraction and compatibility

Physical attraction and compatibility

The general consensus will never deny either two goals as being building blocks for considering a relationship. Without these goals or needs, a long-term relationship is not considered an option. However, my point is the lack of definition applied to the physical aspects. If we define what a person perceives as physical, it would be remiss if we did not incorporate sexual inclinations. Once the issue of sexual compatibility is addressed, both parties enjoy the diminished vulnerability of rejection. Sex alleviates the stress and subconscious fortification caused by curiosity. Sex generates ease and relaxation in a relationship, allowing both parties to further enjoy the luxury of trust. How often do we find ourselves interested in a person and tell ourselves "Now, if they are good in bed, it’s the icing on the cake." I think we all have at one point or another. It is only when we play to societal, directorial thought that we emit projections rather than our true light. In essence, we project our best sides in the hopes of meeting our short-term relationship goals for satisfaction or rejection. Once those short-term goals are met, we move on to the long-term.

Our relationships do not truly start until the morning after.