Q.

My boyfriend and I have recently broken up. My problem is that he still wants to ask questions about what I’m doing, and who I’m doing it with. His excuse is that he needs some time to get over our relationship and still feels attached.

A.

He can only be in a position like this if you allow it. If he clearly states that he is unable to let go, maintaining a close relationship like this is not helping the situation. If he needs time, he needs time alone and away from you. Next, this advice submission should not exist, because by default, if your ex asks you about a subject you are uncomfortable responding to, you should instantly set the boundaries. Once those lines are crossed, you need to tell him directly that in order to maintain any further relationship with you; he needs to respect the parameters of the relationship. Once this is established, and understood he should NOT be asking you questions, and YOU should not be answering any questions. Don’t ask – don’t tell, that should be the policy, unless you modify your relationship.