Q.

I’ve been seeing this girl for six months. We have sex everyday. Recently, I have noticed that she never wants to kiss me. Her girlfriend called me one day and told me to be careful because my girlfriend was messing around on me. Since that time, I have noticed that she disappears on me for hours at a time. I’ve asked her if she is seeing someone else and she says no. However, I found some phone numbers on her bill, which she calls as often as she speaks with me. She denies that any thing is going on with anyone else. So, what do I do from here? I do love her and she says she loves me?

A.

This is a hard question to answer. When someone is suspected of cheating and you don’t know for sure; you have to trust what he or she’ve told you. Her girlfriend/s is/are out of line for telling you about her alleged messing around behind your back. You and she are having the relationship-not you and her girlfriends. So stop sharing your business with them. Something fishy is going on here. In a situation like this, you need to ask yourself, why would her “friend” tell YOU something like this. What are her motives?

Another thing, only you can determine how much you’re going to take off this so-called girlfriend. A relationship that makes you feel bad should not be a relationship you are willing to maintain - period. When you describe a good relationship, you should be using words like: trust, respect, love, enjoyment, happiness, not whether or not you have sex everyday. You should consider whether you want to have a fulfilling relationship, or have sex everyday. Once you have deciphered your feeling about her and the relationship she represents, you will be confident about the decision that you made. Which is a decision that will make you feel good about yourself for the long run.