Q: Now that I am getting older I am more concerned about having a relationship that is safe and fulfilling. When I was in my 20’s and 30’s fostering relationships with the opposite sex was no problem – but now with HIV/AIDS and the down-low dilemma, I have shut myself off to men in some sense. But now that I am more mature, I want a relationship that is special and exclusive.

A: Don’t give up to soon. Couples have healthy sex way up into their senior years. But as a reminder, we do have to be cautious about who we become intimate with. We have to ask many questions of our potential mate nowadays. We also have to take our time. Even if it means not having sex with him until we are married. But in the meantime continue to work on being the best person you can be in the relationship – so when he does arrive -- you are ready for this very special covenant.