Q: I have been in a relationship for the past two years. But recently we have begun to argue about his inability to perform sexually due to pain medications that he is taking. I don’t want to seem insensitive, but it makes me feel unwanted and undesirable when he can’t perform sexually. How can we make amends?

A: This is a medical question that I don’t feel qualified to answer. You may need to talk to him more about what is causing this pain that has him taking medication in the first place. Then perhaps you could offer to visit the doctor with him and show support that way. I would be empathetic, but I would not pressure him sexually at all. I would give the relationship some space, yet I would be there for him as a friend for now. No pressure means giving him all of the time that he needs to get better.