Q: Why are men such good liars? I was seeing someone who was secretly seeing my best friend behind my back. I suspected it – but he lied to me. I loved him with all of my heart and I sacrificed everything for him when he wasn’t working. After this I feel in love with a Nigerian man – which was just more of the same. More lies.

A: Firstly, you cannot jump from person to person and think that everything is going to work out just fine. You have to plan and decide the kind of guy that is going to bring positive energy and good things to your life. Not material possessions either. You have to ask yourself; did I become too clingy too fast? Did I ask the right questions when we met each other? Did I give myself enough time to get to know him? Maybe you are falling in love way to quickly and you’re getting disappointed. Remember this, just because you give your heart and soul to a man – does not mean that you will receive the same in return.

By the way, being Nigerian is only happenstance. If any man makes you feel that they can’t be trusted – then that’s a red flag that you should pay attention to and act on it right away. Don’t start out giving so much of yourself. You have to see if the person deserves your heart. Your heart is not up for auction. Slow down.